A mother, call her name Sari (41), complaining confused with the situation himself. It has been nearly a year he was involved intercourse (sexual) with a kind friend, tutor her son.
Husband and two children did not know that he has a special relationship with fellow members of the single women's social organization. Only, her husband had warned her to not overdo it relates to his friend. "Up like a courtship," said Sari husband.
Relationship with her husband during this normal, as there are no problems, including sexual relations. Even if there are problems that block, ie the difference of religion. Another issue, often in charge Sari husband out of town.
After finally trapped in a kind of sexual relationship with a friend, Sari now very agitated and confused. Emotionally, she felt unfulfilled needs of the relationship of this kind. However, he at once felt at a crossroads, much of the peace due to conflicts.
Two sexes
Sari lived sexual behavior is commonly known as bisexual or dual sexuality. Bisexual is a person's behavior or sexual orientation, both men and women, who are interested in sexual and erotic in the two sexes.
Team of psychologists from Northwestern University, USA, led by Michael Bailey conducted research on men and women by exposing them blue movies that contain scenes of sex between men and men, women and girls, and boys and women.
Apparently, their responses vary in response to the spectacle of a sex scene in a blue film. Results showed that women are always excited watching the sex scenes between men and men (homosexual), and women (lesbians), as well as male and female (normal).
In contrast, men are more excited watching the sex scenes between women and women (lesbians) as well as between men and women (normal).
Conclusion Bailey et al study is that women tend to have a bisexual orientation than men. Understanding tend to have a bisexual orientation here is more points to the emergence of female sexual arousal while watching a sex scene in a blue film, whereas the sex lives of their daily sexual behavior they may be normal. However, many also vent his passion by having sex with both sexes.
Motivating factor
Bisexual-oriented tendency will manifest into acts or bisexual behavior is driven by several circumstances:
1. Try
Behavior to try to acquire a new sexual experience is often done antarsahabat. The man who has been married to try new sexual experiences with his brother. Similarly, women who already had husbands to try new sexual experiences with female companions. Bisexual behavior may also arise from the results of trial and error between male homosexual and friend of daughter or between lesbian women and her male friend. Thus, the phenomenon of sexual orientation that is complex or complicated and can not be seen only on behavior that seem on the surface (overt behavior).
2. Free sex (free sex)
Adherents often free sex sex party attended by many people with various sexual orientations. In these circumstances, it opens the possibility to try doing bisexual relationships. If in doing that relationship they experience pleasure as expected, these behaviors tend to be repeated so that he can develop into people who have bisexual behavior.
3. Unmet emotional needs
The results of multiple studies on sexuality suggests that women are bisexual have some emotional needs that can only be filled by men, while some other emotional needs, they argue, can only be filled with women. To meet all these emotional needs, they have a dual role of sexuality.
4. The need for variety and creativity
The study of bisexual men showed that most of them to be bisexual because he wanted to meet the need for variety and creativity to get satisfaction and pleasure in sexual intercourse.
In the above case, Sari able to present yourself as a loyal and loving toward his family. However, beyond that, he had an affair with fellow kind. Meeting with friends affair was built starting in the social organization of friendship that followed.
From the relations, finally some emotional needs that can not be met by the husband (attention, affection, feeling accepted, and so on) terpehuhi by others. Closeness is then equipped with a physical expression which ultimately leads to sexual activity.
Bisexual behavior including sexual activity deviations that are inconsistent with the norms of religion and society. Therefore, the bisexual encounter the same problem with gays and lesbians. They are generally more depressed than gays or lesbians because of their sexual identity is unclear. Here and there will or "AC / DC" is an insult for the bisexual.
Because the magnitude of such pressures, the bisexual men are generally more prone to mental disorders than their heterosexual (normal) or gay / lesbian. An Australian study published in the British Journal of Psychiatry found that bisexual people have very deep feelings of anxiety, depression, and various other negative thoughts.
In connection with the above case, it is understood that the young mother was very depressed, anxious, depressed and even face the fact that he is "already" being bisexual. He wants to get out of that situation was stifling him. Could it be? Course possible. @
MM Nilam Widyarini
Lecturer in the Program S-1 and S-2 Psychology Gunadarma University, Jakarta
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